#tbt: Change is Hard? (part 2)

This post originally appeared on April 12, 2016.

Yesterday, I brought up the idea that our bodies aren't wired for change. We establish habits and then we tend to stick with them, even as the world changes around us and within us.

Sooner or later, though, we are confronted with a habit that has to change - and we usually experience some level of resistance as we set out to re-wire our brains.

The perception of a threat, or the desire to change an ingrained habit, triggers a physiological response. Hormones surge to ensure that we are ready to respond, you know it as the "fight or flight" response.

Funny little quirk of nature, though - our brains can't always tell the difference between what's real and what's imagined. Our stress response is in many ways the same whether we're being chased by a bear or being chased by our bank balance.

Going rogue and not following the smooth grooves of our behavior patterns leads to resistance. Changes in activity level results in muscle or joint pain until we adapt to the new normal; changes in what we consume results in cravings or withdrawal symptoms; changes in thinking results in feeling disconnected or unsteady...just a few examples of modern-day tigers chasing our change impulses back underground. 

Here's the thing, though. While your body and your mind aren't always the first in line for change, your spirit doesn't feel the pain in change. Your spirit is neutral about change - it's neither good nor bad, on the spirit level it simply is.

Sooo...if the spirit doesn't experience change as painful, why not start making changes on that level? Start with spirit, get the mind on board, and then bring the body into the picture?

Let your spirit hold the idea of change until you can wrap your mind around it. Invite the mind to sit with it as a picture, a theory, until it starts to feel normal. Then the body can step into the new picture with some degree of familiarity, and it will not feel so hard.

Believe it (spirit). See it (mind). Have it (body). <- That's what we call creating a mock-up, by the way. Some people call it creative visualization, some call it manifesting...all the same.

If you can believe in the idea, then see it in more definitive terms, you can do it. Some people say they need to see something to believe it. I'm more likely to see it if I believe it first. Are you with me?

Think about a change you'd like to make. Break it down into three parts, one for each aspect of your being. It can be done for change in any area: financial, relationship, career, health, any experience.

Believe the change is already happening. See it unfolding - cement it in your mind. Sit in the new picture.

And notice what happens.

Barbara HolbrookComment