#tb: Friday Fun: Pillow Talk
This post originally appeared on August 12, 2016.
People have been saying for years that meditation is the new yoga. The physical benefits are well-documented, the mental and spiritual benefits are endless, and the abundance of websites, blogs, classes, and apps devoted to mindfulness speaks directly to our collective desire to connect with something larger than ourselves.
Chances are, you know someone with a rockin' meditation practice (um, hello!). It's even more likely that you or someone close to you is curious about meditation and would love to learn more.
So, why aren't more people talking about it?
I know you have experienced the "everyone must be doing it because I am" line of thinking. That is where I find myself regarding meditation.
I have been consciously meditating for going on 15 years. Prior to actively making meditation part of my daily life (and I do have to consciously bring it into my space, they call it a meditation practice for a reason), I was one to take time to reflect in some manner, usually journaling. I would write as a way of meditating. Then a friend suggested meditation. I took a chance. I took a class. It fit like a glove. I was hooked. So much so that when I met my now husband, I urged him (luckily he was willing) to also take a class to understand meditation and its power.
Needless to say, meditation changed my life and continues to do so. I can not imagine my life without the techniques we play with, work with, and teach in AMP and the other programs.
With four little ones, I won't lie, I don't spend hours a day in meditation. I do spend key moments a day in meditation - before my feet hit the floor in the morning, before I completely shut off at the end of the day, and at least once during the middle of the day, I pause, I reset, even if I only have 30 seconds. I honestly don't know how parents parent without meditation in their back pocket. At least once a day, I will ask my children if they have meditated (grounded, connected to their energy, blown a rose) in some fashion.
So, in my world, everyone is talking about it...and sometimes I forget that not everyone actually is.
I think a lot of people are eager to talk about it, and yet it can still be a risky thing to float in a conversation. There can be a pretty intense emotional charge around anything even remotely spiritual. What if people think I'm super-religious? What if people think I'm weird? What if I *am* weird? What if I'm labelled as the "woo-woo" one in the group and I lose credibility?
All I can say to that is, yes, it can be a little woo-woo, and that doesn't have to be a problem. That's part of the fun of it, actually.
The more I practice meditation, the more "me" I become - which allows me to see those around me more clearly and validate them for who they are. The more I speak the language of meditation - and its kissing cousin, clairvoyance - the more readily the words flow off my tongue. I've noticed that the more I do that, the more I attract people who seem to be seeking permission or encouragement or empowerment to be more present in their own lives.
Twice in the last week, for example, I have had great discussions with people after making a casual reference to what I do. It's validating and encouraging to me as someone invested in seeing meditation in the mainstream, for sure.
There was the conversation with the receptionist about being a medium, prompted by something on the waiting room TV. Then a great exchange with my primary physician grew out of her telling me about her brother that teaches meditation.
In both instances, it was clear that I actually gained credibility with both of those people, because I was so clearly standing in my truth as we spoke. No hedging, no hesitation, no fear - just me, honest and real and passionate about this lifetime and all that I get to experience in it.