I love to plan, I love setting goals, and planning my way to achieving them. I also love noticing when everything has shifted and the plan no longer fits or works with what the present moment requires.
Do you know what I'm talking about?
We are all guided on some level throughout our days and lives (whether we want to admit it or not). We all emit energy, our actions ripple out in to the world, impacting others near and far.
So when things shift for me, rather than reacting in an upset manner (not all the time - I am human and can feel disappointed and frustrated like everyone else) I look, I see what is actually happening.
How do I do that?
It starts with awareness, mindfulness, opening up to intuition, and the ability to see what is not tangibly there, the subtle clues that pop up (be it a feeling - those gut feelings are great indicators - or a sense or even a picture created in the mind's eye). Once I notice things shifting, I purposefully tune in. I take a moment to hone in on what's coming up for me - what am I feeling, what am I seeing, what am I intuiting. Then, I do my best to adjust accordingly.
For instance, last week, I wasn't sure how my Thursday was going to unfold. During my morning active meditation, it looked good to drive the children to school for drop off instead of walking and then to treat myself to workout while my younger children played in child watch. Then we could come home to enjoy some more play time outside in the beautiful fall weather before lunch. The plan looked great, and yet, during the active meditation, I got the sense that something was off. I wasn't quite sure what, so I decided to let it be and move on. Things always seem to have a way of working out, right?
As my morning progressed, everything seemed to take longer. When it was time to get shoes on and load up for school drop off, two of the four children insisted on walking, INSISTED. I could push and force the plan I had seen during meditation or let it go, follow the signs, take the path of least resistance, and walk.
We enjoyed a lovely walk to school. After deposited the school aged children, we decided to return the same way we went to school when usually we take a different path home. Again, something pulled me or guided me to that decision. As we approached our house, we noticed a car in the driveway at which point it all clicked - that's why everything worked out the way it had.
If we had driven, we would have been well on our way to the gym and if we had walked the different way home, we would not have seen the car in the front driveway. If any of my plans or "normal" ways of doing things had happened, we would not have enjoyed a visit from a friend stopping by. Things felt off in my morning meditation because it didn't occur to me to look and see if someone was going to stop by or how someone else's actions might influence my plan. The entire day unfolded differently and, dare I say, more gracefully than I could have scripted and certainly than it would have been had I not flexed and accommodated how things were changing as the day progressed.
So, how do I plan my week? I take a look, I use my active meditation space to visualize and see, then I stay present throughout the day to respond according to the cues and what is unfolding around me. When I manage to do that, things usually feel easier and I notice very little strife in my day. When I resist or check out, forget to notice what's happening around me, discount my gut feelings or gentle hints from spirit, things feel more chaotic and more stressful.
Planning is fantastic and much needed in life. Being able to stay present to respond rather than react when things shift or the Universe directs us differently is perhaps even more fantastic.
This week, as you make plans, as you set your sights on tasks and goals, remain open to what actually happens, in real time. Give yourself permission to adjust as the situation merits, to see what the Universe lays out for you, and take note of what follows.
As we do.