Let Go of the Leash (and other thoughts on the importance of detaching)
We talked last week about luck and fortune. I was reminded over the weekend about the importance of the release. And of course, as luck would have it, that is exactly the theme we had already chosen for the this week (I had to smile as I checked my notes for this week's theme, coincidence or luck?).
When talking with a friend, the topic of being able to quickly release came up regarding walking a dog. We both brought up instances of walking a dog where the dog wants to go one way when the thought was to go another way. The result being a pulled over or dragged dog walker (in both cases the dog was a heavier dog as compared to the ones on the other end of the lease).
I learned back then the importance of not wrapping the leash around the wrist so that if a quick release is needed, it is as simple as dropping or letting go of the leash. If you are a seasoned dog owner or walker, you might think "doesn't everyone know that?" Well, actually no.
So, I could wrap it up right there and leave it at that: always remember to not wrap the lease around your wrist when walking a dog. Go forth in the world, safely, you daring ones.
Okay...not so fast. By now you know me better than that. I can't resist making this is a bigger and broader lesson on the importance of detachment.
Last week, as mentioned, we talked about luck. My experience is that to fully experience fortune and luck, it is necessary to release the attachment. Attachment to what? Well, whatever "it" is - all of it, everything.
The less attached to an outcome the easier to manifest it. Ever notice that? I sure have.
Let me be clear, not attached, detachment, doesn't mean not caring.
Let me illustrate:
In my life there have been things I attached myself very strongly to (imagine a baby cub clinging to its mother, glued like white on rice, wrapped around like a koala bear to a tree). Most specifically, jobs. Years ago in Chicago after recently getting married and "needing" a job, I was so excited to get a position in downtown Chicago. I was all in. I wanted it so badly. I put all my eggs in the basket for this one position. Then, after two interviews and references checked, I didn't get it. Panic! No just kidding. What happened though? In hindsight, I didn't trust the outcome - something told me deep down that it was not the thing or exactly right, or I wasn't going to get it, and that fear led me to hold on so tightly there was no breathing room. The result: that thing didn't happen. Lesson learned. (I would like to say I learned it and have never repeated it, never clung to anything every again...note I would like to say that.)
Now the things I found myself detached from at the start, not because I didn't care, rather because something felt different have happened easily. I met my now husband on a blind date. I knew the moment I met him we would get married. However, I wasn't attached to when or how or the timing or any of it. I cared a lot. So the caring piece wasn't the difference. The difference was it resonated so loudly, to my core, that it was the "right" thing, that I didn't need to cling to him or the relationship. I released it to the Universe to work out and instead was present with how it unfolded. When he said "don't expect me to call" after dropping me off post dinner date, I laughed. I had total amusement and certainty. It was a life changing moment for several reasons. It was a true realization of that feeling of complete detachment with 100% certainty.
Now, to translate all of that learning to every day... Well, I am still practicing. I still get attached to things and want things to work out AND have to remind myself to let go, don't wrap the leash around my wrist to eliminate the ability to quickly release. I consciously work to navigate the world with less attachment, more caring, less fear, more release, less worry, and more trust.
To sum it up, don't wrap the leash around your wrist and practice detachment while still caring (please, don't confuse the two).
Easier said than done as I have discovered and continue to discover.
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