It's here. Thanksgiving week. The official start of the holiday season. Let the hustle and bustle begin, the marathon of busy commence, let the family gatherings and the obligatory work socials fill the calendar.
Or does it have to be that way?
Are your holidays yours? Or are they littered with traditions that no longer resonate? Do you find yourself doing the same things year after year? Are your holidays so "2000 and late"? Are you programmed to do the same thing each holiday? Have you dared to step out of the programming to find your truth and bring your holiday celebrations into present time?
Each year I find myself changing it up. I am not opposed to tradition in the least. However, I aim to consciously build each holiday to match where my family and I are working.
Living in the present means checking in to see what makes sense in this moment, noticing what is needed now versus responding (or reacting) to how you have in the past.
It's not the easiest way to go about doing things and there are programs we would rather everyone stick to for the sake of safety. For example, stopping at a red light. It is extremely helpful when everyone follows the programming and stops at a red light.
On the other hand, it is not always helpful when people is so programmed that they fail to recognize a new opportunity or miss a new experience because programming says otherwise.
In what ways are you programmed? Do you kick into automatic pilot during the holidays? Are you conditioned to believe you must do certain things each holiday season? Would you rather not put up the four holiday trees and instead enjoy the decorations of others? Would you rather skip the homemade turkey dinner and have spaghetti instead? (I know, crazy talk.)
There is an old story that goes like this: a little girl asks her mother one holiday morning as her mother prepares the family supper, "Mom, why do you cut the ends off the roast beef?" "Good question her mother says. That's how your grandmother did it - goes ask her." Off the little girl runs to ask her grandmother who sat in the other room. "Grandma, why do you cut the ends off the roast beef because Mommy does it now too." Her Grandmother laughs and says. "It's because the pan was too small to fit the entire roast."
As we do.
Reference above from Black Eyed Peas, "Boom Boom Pow."