Neutrality Sets the Tone

Neutrality is an interesting word for me. It doesn’t have much of a meaning for me, even though I know what it is supposed to mean. A state of balance maybe, or a state of calm, when we feel centered, when circumstances don’t pull the rug away from under out feet, but instead we are able to look at the situation, breathe and assess?

If you don’t know me, I would like to tell you a little about me. I would consider myself rather intense. Emotions are strong and I react strongly, always have. However, thanks to yoga, breathing, active meditation I have come to a much milder version of my 20-year-old self, I believe, I hope;0).

Still, life always keeps us on our feet. Neutrality takes work and practice. Lately I have realized I need to add the physical part to my meditative work. It makes a significant difference if I move my body physically in a workout, with a swim or a game of tennis or not. I can observe my children’s behavior from a much more neutral point of view, if I had my run that day. The tension in my body has gone, a gentle feeling of fatigue surrounds me and yes, my mind is much easier to focus on breathing, of being right here in the moment.

My chatterbox monkey on my shoulder has been exhausted by exercising. How funny is that? Now if I then add my regular practice of yoga and meditation, man, I can take on the world with a smile. I can stop my car after being pulled over and not panic. I can converse with the officer without wanting to cry. I can hear his words in a much more neutral tone. I don’t have to curse at anything in my mind, I just move on, without judging too much. What a beautiful place to be in.

photo by Romy Eichner