Why We Always Fail at Diets and Healthy Resolutions
Daring Ones, we are thrilled to share a Daring Spirits first: our very first guest blogger! You may recall Erin's previous appearances here on the blog, she's been featured twice (she's just that good). We love her message about food and her approach so much, we invited her into our space to tell you about it in her own words. Take it away, Erin...
A couple of weeks ago, I took an online personality test. I answered some questions, clicked submit, and got results. They described me to a T. At first I was like, “Yeah! That’s how I am!” But it quickly became, “Wait, ew. That’s how I am?!”
The silly little quiz results played mind games with me. I fixated on the negative aspects of my personality. I began to feel disappointed, offended and a little embarrassed as I saw myself painted in a different - darker - light. I thought, “well, maybe this isn’t how I want to be”.
I called my mom and she did what moms do best: talked me off a ledge. She helped me to see that YES, this is who I am. These are absolutely, undoubtedly my traits. But, rather than focus on the negative aspects, I could instead choose to see all the good. Because, after all, I was the one holding the paintbrush.
Earlier this morning I was chatting with a colleague of mine - we were sharing some small victories, and celebrating our success. And that’s when it dawned on me: I wouldn’t be celebrating these successes if I didn’t carry these specific personality traits. I wouldn’t be who I am without them. And, honestly, I like who I am.
I overcome obstacles because I am the way I am.
I chase my passions because I am the way I am.
I help people because I am the way I am.
I’ve carved out my life exactly the way I want it because I am the way I am.
A couple hours later I was reading a Nancy Tillman book (#sobfest) to my toddler, and these words jumped right off the page:
For never before in story or rhyme
(not even once upon a time)
has the world ever known a you, my friend,
and it never will, not ever again…
(Isn’t it grand when life beats a message over your head?)
We are who we are - personality traits and all - and that’s what makes us special, unique, US. I’m me. You’re you. We can spend a lifetime trying to fight ourselves, or we can embrace who we are, see the beauty in that, and make it work for us.
This comes into play in a major way with food and building healthy habits.
So many of my nutrition clients tell me they are weak-willed and lack discipline. They’ve been told for years that they just need to “do better” and “eat less” in order to “fix” themselves. They think they are failures if they can’t adhere to an exercise program or diet plan.
If this is you, too…try to understand that YOU are not the failure. Maybe it is the program or plan that’s failing you. Since you’re different than everybody else (and remember - that’s a GOOD thing), it stands to reason that you might need to approach food, fitness and habits differently than everybody else.
That's why self-exploration - including looking at your personality traits, understanding them, and making them work FOR YOU instead of against you - is always such a large part of Fueled+Fit, my 21 day nutrition & wellness program. Not only do you learn a ton about food and nutrition, you also learn about yourself. One of the ways we do this is with AMP meditation - the practice that changed my life and my relationship to food. Because so many of my clients tell me that trying to find the time for stress management practices causes them even MORE stress, this is meditation that you can do anywhere - whether or not you have the time.
Fueled+Fit has been referred to as "ground-breaking" because it is unlike any diet you've ever been on. I have helped hundreds of people change their relationship to food through this program, and I'd love to help you, too. Join me as we kick things off next Monday - January 9th.
Hop over to my website to learn more about the program, and to see what others have to say about it!
link to page: http://www.erinholthealth.com/fed-well-fit-3/